There’s only one answer to this- buy more guitars. Just keep buying them until you have so many, you have one guitar perfect for each thing you want to do.
I know for myself (and I suspect the overwhelming majority of others) is that there is a huge amount of crossover between what we’re hearing and what we’re feeling, physically, as we play. Separating these things doesn’t seem to be an easy task and more often than not, confirm our biases. There are so many variables involved in this stuff that we have zero control over that while I have certain wood/spec preferences, they’re more about ensuring a guitar feels the way I want; I love ebony fingerboards and stainless steel frets. There’s not much out there that feels as smooth as that to me and I really enjoy it, but I always go back to “what difference is this going to make in a mix, live or recorded?” and 9x out of 10 it just doesn’t matter because that extra bit of “top end” you’re hearing and believing is the result of the stainless steel frets can be completely wiped away by adjusting the treble of the amp, slightly adjustment of a mic or EQ. Or you swear you can hear the difference all day long when playing in the room you always play in, then you move the same rig with the same settings to another room and all of a sudden it’s gone and you’re adjusting your amp to bring it back again so you can say “Ah yeah, there it is! I knew it!”
So I’m not really being sarcastic with my opening line, I started buying guitars for the tones they’re known for, which often confirm my biases over how nothing sounds as big as a Strat on the neck pickup with a clean tone than a Strat on the neck pickup, or that my Solar is the ultimate metal guitar because it’s a 10lb Explorer with pickups designed by a guy known for chugging, or my JEM is the ultimate guitar for lead playing because of how effortless it is to pull of technical sh*t on it and because the way the pickups are wound the leads just jump out of a mix with little effort, so on and so forth. All this sh*t can be done with other guitars, but they all confirm my little biases and idiosyncrasies that make me want to pick them up for specific purposes.
How’s that for nihilistic consumerism? Nothing f*cking matters, buy it all.