The point is having sounds that are relatively in the same perceived loudness as each other, or in case its truly supposed to be much louder or softer, finding a way to make that the correct level relative to the other
There is no robust way to do that. As I pointed out above, matches that are near-perfect in one SPL range will be profoundly different at higher or lower SPL. And that's just a match when you're playing solo. Add in musical context, and you'll find that a match with one set of additional instruments will fall flat on its face with another set of instruments,
even at the same SPL.
I'm thinking I'm really only worrying when the difference would need 3dB of adjustment or more. Less than that probably won't be noticed by the audience so much and are less jarring for FOH
So you're talking about mid-song preset changes. First, I strongly recommend that folks find a way to avoid doing that, for reasons that go well beyond level matching. Second, if you're truly equipped for live performance, you'll have an expression pedal set up to control your volume without altering your tone, IOW placed downstream of every nonlinear block in your modeler.
and more easily taken care of if a tiny wiggle needs to be done, not a massive input level trim before all of the board and system's dynamics processing
If your level is jumping that much from one preset to another, you really need to work on that. It doesn't require instrumented testing to completely avoid that.
I don't really think "by ear" is usually a good test anyway,
It's the only test that ever matters. What you're leaving out is that
any match will have to be tweaked -
by ear - in various gig environments. If you're not able to take care of that yourself, you're missing some essential skills as an electric guitarist.
If you are into the type of music that you do a lot of the changes just by turning the volume knob on the guitar,
Again, an essential skillset, primarily for tweaking the amount of overdrive, somewhat less for controlling volume. That's what the aforementioned expression pedal is for.
no you aren't missing anything, and I don't think this would be worth it to you. Those types of players can do a hell of a lot with just one sound and if the preset volumes or whatever don't match up, these types competent guitar players can easily and immediately compensate for it
Fixed it.